Watch Out For The Signs Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back

If you ever looked at your girlfriend while you were dating and just scratched your head because you had NO idea what she was talking about or thinking, you’re not alone. Women can be very difficult creatures to understand. Just when you think you have a handle on it, they change. It can be frustrating and confusing while you’re still together, and that difficulties become more profound when you break up. Instead of just trying to read into everything she’s saying, you have to examine the way that she’s behaving towards you as well.

Most girls will give off certain clues that they’re interested in someone and your ex is not an exception to the rule. All you have to do is interpret and recognize those clues correctly and use them to work in your favor if you’re aiming for reconciliation.

It’s easy to see why the majority of guys instantly take the same actions after being dumped. Their first (and often undeniable) urge is to do anything possible to try and get their ex to reconsider or take back their decision. That never works. When they realize they’re fighting a losing battle, they change tactics. They try to bring up every single happy memory that they shared with their ex and make a laundry list of reasons why they shouldn’t break up based on these memories.

Guys mistakenly believe that logic can prevail and win the day over emotion. It works with other guys, but with girls logic takes a back seat. Your breakup is not a courtroom, and you can’t win the argument by jury. They may try sending flowers or writing love notes. Left with no other option they can imagine, they will finally end up losing all of their self-respect (and their ex’s in the process) and resort to desperation.

Getting Her Back Doesn’t Have To Be Difficult

While you may think that winning back your ex’s heart is a fruitless and impossible task, it doesn’t have to be that hard. Before you think about what actions you can take to accomplish your goal, you need to think about what you should NOT do – under any circumstances. Do not resort to idiotic or immature behavior to try and get her attention. If you can exhibit even a fraction of self-control and not just do everything that comes to mind, your chances of getting her back vastly improve.

When you look at your ex-girlfriend, you’re not going to see a flashing neon light that says “hi, I still love you”. Women have turned subtlety into an art form, and you may have to dig a little deeper to find the answers. In order to get her back, seeing the signs and acting accordingly are a vital part of the process.

How Does Your Ex Behave Towards You?

When she broke things off, how did she behave? Taking a closer look at her actions and communications can be a very telling sign to determining her true feelings. Does she do anything possible to avoid all contact? Does she seem distant or hesitant to communicate? Does she still text you often or call you regularly? Your best chance for reconciliation is if she’s still attempting to remain polite after your breakup. While journeying into the dreaded “friend zone” is not something you want to do, continued communication is a positive indication that she’s not ready to be done with you completely.

If your breakup ended with a colossal screaming match of epic proportions, she may still be displaying a similar sentiment. It may seem like a recipe for disaster, but this is also something that should be viewed positively. Her continued anger indicates that her feelings are still strong and the relationship’s end is still causing a reaction. If you stay smart and keep your distance, she may be able to resolve those feelings on her own and come to terms with them. After the negative emotions have subsided, she may be headed towards a potential reconciliation. The fact that she’s still thinking about you should be a helpful indication that the situation is a focus of her thoughts, and not written off completely.

If she’s acting like she just couldn’t care less, you may be in a precarious position. If she isn’t showing any interest in what you’re up to at all and just doesn’t seem to care one way or another, it may be time to reevaluate your goals. She isn’t putting any stock on your shared past, and her apathy can lead to a distancing of your connection that will eventually fade completely.

Even in the worst circumstance, there is a way to turn the tide. If you genuinely want to give your relationship another shot and you’re convinced that it’s the best thing for you both, there are certain tricks that can be implemented to spark that interest again. If she’s gradually moving farther and farther away, though, it is imperative that you take action. The quicker you can stop this drifting process, the less difficulty you will have bringing her back from the edge again.

She Messages You Or Sends An Email

Conversations are not just reserved for the phone anymore. With the continuing internet explosion and social media at an all-time high, her options for contacting you are vast – and a lot of them don’t require meeting face to face or even picking up the phone. Maybe she’s leaving you messages on Facebook or sending you a joke or two throughout the day on your work email. Maybe she’s messaging you fairly consistently just to shoot the breeze. If any of these scenarios are true, then there is definitely a spark of some interest left. She’s curious about your life and she wants to keep you close enough to reach if she chooses to.

If the breakup happened recently and your head is still spinning, your best option is to simply ignore her attempts completely. Immediately following a breakup under any circumstances, both parties should be spending some time apart to let tempers cool down and hurt feelings to subside. Continued contact is not in the best interest of either one of you, so responding is generally unwise. Remember, she’s giving you attention now and she’s fully expecting you to reciprocate. By avoiding the urge to respond or say whatever flippant comment first comes to mind, you’re nullifying those expectations. You just quadrupled her interest in you. The more you can stay away, the greater her interest in you will be. She made the choice to end the relationship, not you. You don’t have to be tied to your computer or email just waiting to respond whenever she reaches out.

Progressing To Texts Or Phone Calls

If your ex is still making the effort to pick up the phone and dial your number, things are definitely looking up. Any efforts on her part after dumping you are an easy indication that she’s simply not ready to let go – even though she ended your romantic relationship.

It’s possible that she just needs some time to think or sort out some conflicting emotions. The one thing you can be positive of is that she certainly does not want you to move on. She’s counting on you sticking around – just in case. This means that she’ll be more open to talking to you, and she won’t take overt signs to push you away or keep you at arm’s length. She wants you where she can see you, and she is paying attention to every single move you make.

If she was serious about severing your relationship completely, she would be gone without a trace. You wouldn’t be hearing a peep from her. She’d delete you from her Facebook and act like your relationship never existed at all. She’s not taking that course of action, and that’s definitely a good thing.

If you haven’t heard from her awhile and she suddenly calls you unexpectedly, her intentions are obvious. It doesn’t matter what you talk about or for how long. She’s thinking about you and that means that she may be having second thoughts about leaving you. The best thing you can do now is to allow her to continue to make contact and avoid acting in a way that can make her think you’re pursuing her or pushing her into something too quickly.

She’s Keeping In Touch With Your Circle Of Friends

Your friends are often her first option when she’s interested in reconnection. They’re an easy group of people to find, and she can often discover a wealth of information without having to dig too hard. If she was done with you completely, she wouldn’t bother. The fact that she’s intentionally seeking you out shows you that some interest in you and your former relationship are still present in her thoughts and her actions. She can also keep tabs on your single life and find out if another girl has your eye. If she’s looking for information among your friends, it’s a sign that she’s looking to see if you’re still available and interested in a possible connection down the road.

She Shows You Physical Affection And There Is An Emotional Connection

You may have noticed a gradual or sudden change in the way your ex-girlfriend acts when she’s near you. She’s suddenly reaching for your hand again during a scary movie or opening herself up to you and talking about personal things that mean something to her. Maybe the single life isn’t working out the way she had hoped, or she’s realizing how much she values having you in her life. If something has changed, there is a reason.

Most girls avoid any kind of action that would give their ex the wrong impression if they were completely done with the relationship. They don’t want their ex to feel that they have a chance at getting back together. Your ex is doing the complete opposite. Not only is she giving you signals, they’re not at all subtle, and they’re not open to interpretation either. She may be looking for a casual, physical hook up – or she may be interested in getting back together. It’s best to get your head in the game and determine what you should do in order to be prepared for either possibility.

Late Night Drunk Dials

When your ex-girlfriend drinks, she is at her most vulnerable. If she’s calling you up in the middle of the night after a night on the town, it only means one thing. She’s thinking about you, and she’s probably lonely. Alcohol lowers a person’s natural resistance to act on their instincts, and if her first instinct is to pick up the phone and dial your number, you can see that as a step in the right direction. When she’s feeling open and alone, she’s still turning to you.

She Often Asks You To Hang Out With Her

Whether she’s trying to pull it off in the guise of friendship or not, if your ex-girlfriend is constantly looking for excuses to get together or hang out in person, your chances of getting your relationship back are extremely high. If she always seems to be around, she’s not done seeing you as a potential partner.

Seeing you is giving her some kind of gratification that she’s not finding elsewhere. She may be trying to convince you (and herself) that you’re “just friends” but underneath the surface, nothing could be farther from the truth. Even if she’s already dating another guy, she still wants to have you as a part of her every-day life, and that means that she’s certainly not done with you. This is the closest thing to a neon flashing light you’re ever going to get. If things continue this way, they will lead to more.

She Comes Over Unannounced

If your ex has developed a habit of randomly showing up at your apartment or office just to say hello, she’s sending you a pretty clear message. Face to face encounters are the clearest signal that you can get. If she wants to see you, she feels as if talking on the phone or online is not sufficient. She knows where you are during the day, and she knows where you like to spend your down time. If she’s randomly popping up at your favorite hangout, you can bet that there’s a reason.

This is the perfect time for you to realize that not only does she miss you, but she’s craving face to face contact in a very real way – so much so that it’s hard for her to stay away. Don’t discourage her impulses. Allow her the spontaneity to continue her behavior, and don’t ask questions. Just let it happen. Don’t rush into anything or push for answers – just tell her that it’s nice to see her and let things go at their own pace.

What If She’s Not Doing Any Of Those Things?

Was your girlfriend timid or bashful when you started dating? If she’s simply less outward about her feelings or often feels awkward, you shouldn’t take the absence of these signs as a bad thing.

Even if she isn’t the least bit shy about expressing herself and she’s doing nothing that would let you think you had a chance, you still have hope. There are ways that can open the door of possibility again and put you in a better position. All women have certain triggers to their emotions. If you can find hers and use them properly, it can be a lot easier to get her back than it seems.

Your Next Step – Get Her Back Through Texts

You might think it seems a little silly to try and use text messages to get your ex back after a breakup. I thought so too, but I quickly realized how badly I was mistaken when I started learning about many of Michael Fiore’s texting techniques.

Here’s a small list of 8 reasons why you should strongly consider text messaging if you’re looking for a way to get your ex back.

  • Texting is personal, private, and intimate.
  • When done properly, texting is nonconfrontational.
  • By using text messages, you can stop and think about what to say before you say it. This is a HUGE benefit when it comes to getting your ex back.

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  • When you text your ex, you don’t have to worry about breaking down emotionally in front of them.
  • Texting your ex allows you to rebuild attraction at your own pace. You can take your time and do it right without rushing in and making things a lot worse than they already are.
  • People are addicted to their cell phones and take them everywhere. This means you have virtually unlimited access to your ex.
  • Sending text messages allows you to truly open up. Many people will say things over text they would never have the courage to say onthe phone or in person.
  • Texting means you have a greater opportunity to be heard. Even if your ex doesn’t reply to your text, there’s still a very good chance they read it rather than just ignoring it like they might with a phone call.
Truth be known, texting gives you a gigantic opportunity to seduce your ex back into your life. You just need to go about it the right way and it never hurts to have a superstar coach like Michael Fiore in your corner.

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